This week has to be the worst week in the history of celeb breakups: not only did we lose Taylor Swift and Calvin Harris, but now it seems that Gigi and Zayn, and Demi Lovato and Wilmer Valderrama have also bitten the dust *cries*.
The one thing that we all have in common is heartbreak: we’ve all been there, and we know how hard it is to get through. It’s a mental, physical and emotional roller coaster of sadness, regret, anger, and adrenaline-induced empowerment – and we’re here to help you focus on the ~empowerment~ factor. So if you’ve had your heart broken recently, worry not, we’ve created FORA’s Guide To Getting Through A Breakup.
Whether you’re the one with the broken heart or it’s your BFF, here’s what you need to throw the ultimate ~*breakup rehab*~ sleepover. Use the food to indulge, the movies to reflect, the spa products to rejuvenate, and the journal to start fresh.
FOOD: It’s been *scientifically* proven that the part of the brain that registers love also registers food. So, since science says it’s okay, eat until you cannot eat anymore, it will actually help the pain. Some must-haves are wine, Chinese food, ice cream and cheesy chips.
MOVIES: Movies relating to your situation (especially ones that make light of it), are an absolute must – they take the seriousness out of everything, will make you giggle, and hopefully reflect on why you’re relationship ended. See our favs below!
SPA: Help yourself relax and unwind with a blackberry bath bomb (created to relax you), a face mask (to make you feel fre$h), foot cream (to focus on parts of you that normally don’t get attention), and of course, a good ol’ bottle of nail polish (cherry red means self love!)
JOURNAL: Sit with your BFF (or by yourself) and jot down your goals, hopes and dreams. This breakup isn’t the end, remind yourself of everything you’re working for and you’ll realize that you are so much bigger than this! *This is your year to sparkle*
[SkinnyGirl Rose, $6.95] [Chinese Food] [Ben & Jerry’s] [Doritos] [The Other Woman, $12.99] [Legally Blonde, $12.99] [Forgetting Sarah Marshall, $12.99] [Blackberry Bath Bomb, $6.40] [Cupcake Face Mask, $7.95] [Foot Moisturizer, $26] [Nail Polish, $8.50] [Journal, $16.50]
These are our top 5 breakup songs: remember that while it’s good to get out the feelings and put T-Swift’s heart wrenching songs on repeat – you also need to let out your anger and general bad-assness and make yourself realize how much better you are without them.
LYRICS TO LIVE BY: “‘Cus baby now we’ve got bad blood, you know it used to be mad love”
LYRICS TO LIVE BY: “I’m so over it, I’ve been there and back
Changed all my numbers and just in case you’re wonderin’
I got that new I’m-a-single-girl swag”
LYRICS TO LIVE BY: “Cause without me, you know you’re lost
Minus you I’m better off”
LYRICS TO LIVE BY: “Boo hoo, oh, did you expect me to care
You don’t deserve my tears
I guess that’s why they ain’t there”
LYRICS TO LIVE BY: “You can take back your memories
They’re no good to me” “When you see my face, hope it gives you hell”
1. Feel the feels. Don’t go around denying that you’re hurt. Holding in the pain only makes it worse, trust us. Let yourself feel the feels and accept the fact that it’s okay.
2. Don’t rethink your decision. At least until you have had a chance to fully heal. If it’s meant to be, it will be – but after a heartbreak you can’t keep mowing over the “What-Ifs” in your brain, it will drive you crazy. Take the time to heal, then if you’ve come to terms with the breakup and realize it was a mistake, reach out and see if they feel the same.
3. Get back to you. More important than anything else, get back to you. It’s not uncommon that a relationship significantly changes a person, and whether it was good or bad, you need to get back to the best version of yourself.
4. Do what you love. If you’ve been too busy with your relationship lately to do what you love, jump back in head first. Bury yourself in doing what makes you happy and it’ll not only take your mind off it, but will help you recover faster.
5. Let yourself lean on others. It’s okay to feel down, and now more than ever you need people who love you. Even though you may think you’re being annoying, leaning on your friends for support is crucial to the healing process.
6. Don’t block them. Now this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t stop speaking to them, you should stop communication with them until you’ve both had a chance to heal, but you shouldn’t block them on every social media out of anger and in hopes that it will make you stop thinking about them, because it won’t. Instead, keeping them on social media won’t leave you constantly wondering the unknown.
7. Exercise is key. It’s okay to let yourself go a little when you’re hurt, but make sure you don’t send yourself into a tailspin of despair. Exercise releases endorphins, that will make you feel better instantly (and will help you get started on that ~revenge bod~)
8. Make a change. Everything will remind you of them. Making small changes (or large ones!) helps you take the leap into the next chapter of your life. Whether it’s your hair, redecorating, or even moving, it’ll help you see that the future is *bright*